Imposter Syndrome: The Silent Struggle of the Most Compassionate Souls

You know that feeling—the one where you can’t quite believe your success is real? No matter how hard you’ve worked or what you’ve achieved, it somehow feels like you don’t deserve it? That’s imposter syndrome. The real heartbreak is that the people most affected by it are often some of the kindest, most compassionate, and empathetic souls I’ve ever met.

These are the people who do so much, not just for their own healing, but for others too. They’re out there, showing up for everyone else, even though doubts and fears are eating away at them. And often, they do this at a huge cost to themselves—their health, their energy, and their mental well-being.

The Burden of Empathy

I’ve had so many of these beautiful souls come into my practice, often carrying the weight of painful, even traumatic histories. It breaks my heart. It makes me so angry that they can’t see how incredible they really are.

It’s easy to throw out the usual advice—“Just be yourself. You’re good enough. Love yourself.” And sure, they get it. They know it’s true. But that doesn’t make it easier. When they can’t just flick a switch to feel that way, they start blaming themselves again… and the cycle continues.

Where Does Imposter Syndrome Come From?

For many, it’s rooted in childhood. They grow up with the message that no matter what they do, it’s never enough. And because this happens during the most vulnerable years—and often from the people they love and trust most, like their parents—it’s not just in their heads. This feeling gets embedded in their very being, deep in their cells. It becomes a part of who they are.

Letting go of that isn’t just hard—it feels impossible. To someone who’s been living with this for so long, it’s not just about letting go. It feels like tearing out a piece of who they are. Their inner child—the part of them that needed these beliefs to survive—fights back, screaming in fear.

What’s Next? How Do We Heal?

Recognition – I see myself.

The first step is simply acknowledging what’s going on. It’s about seeing yourself clearly—recognizing that these feelings of doubt and inadequacy are there, but they don’t define you. Once you see it, you can begin to understand it.

Compassion – I allow myself to feel the pain.

Let yourself feel what’s been buried. This part is tough because it’s so easy to push the pain away, but real healing comes from allowing yourself to feel it. Sit with it, honor it, and realize it’s okay to be vulnerable.
Connection – I listen to my inner child and offer comfort.
It’s about connecting with that younger part of yourself—the part that still feels scared or not good enough. Instead of fighting or rejecting it, you learn to listen, to offer comfort and reassurance, just as you would to a dear friend.
Rewrite the Story Holding You Back

This isn’t a quick fix, but it’s a deep and lasting one. By taking the time to recognize, feel, and comfort yourself, you begin to rewrite the story that’s been holding you back. Bit by bit, you’ll start to believe in your own worth.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

For those of you dealing with this, I know you tend to fight these battles alone. And yes, you’re probably strong enough to manage on your own—you always have been. But why make it harder? Let someone stand beside you.

Here’s hoping you can see yourself through my eyes.